autism first http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:02:50 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.2 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1131 it always comes down to this, doesn\'t it? But when your instincts constantly remind you that the cure is worse than the disease, all you can do is bear the burden of life, surely the faithful will flee, and you\'ll be left alone, once again, to face off with yourself, and the only comforting thought is that you still aren\'t willing to conform, cause you know that even the slightest amount of adaptation will make you feel even more uncomfortable about this existence that you never signed up for in the first place. jillian Wed, 24 Dec 2008 06:57:27 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1132 This image captures the nightmarish dimensions of the problem as the intimate personal doorway to the Self one has tentatively agreed to open and share within the relationship starts to be viewed by the other as a convenient portal through which to facilitate the industrial transformation of one\'s inner furnishings and space to a more familiar design and layout of their own. Anna Wed, 24 Dec 2008 13:49:09 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1133 people love being lied to, in a world that is hopelessly, hopelessly fucked, the slightest amount of adaptation, in order to make another person feel ok about this existence is just going to make you even more aware of how denial is the only tool to keep a relationship going. When A Utopian has a love affair with The Town Crier, you can fully expect that there will be a major philosophical battle once the euphoria wears off. FN Wed, 24 Dec 2008 15:32:07 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1134 and the Doctor said \"macular degeneration\" silent night silent nothing silence is sacred doesn\'t matter Wed, 24 Dec 2008 16:34:10 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1135 On the denial front , the healer mom who answered my ad just countered what I said about my upbringing in kids homes by saying her family background was unhappy because her mother was autistic. This is starting to conform to the script from hell..... :( Bjorn Wed, 24 Dec 2008 22:56:19 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1136 I am here to observe and document human suffering. I am not here to propagate the species. Instead of viewing my nature as flawed, I have finally realized that I just don\'t want to participate in all those human activities that are supposed to make people happy, because anytime I try my entire being starts to rebel, and I feel very unnatural. I\'ve been addressing the issues of conformity, obedience, deference and demeanor for the last 25 years, and as a 40 year old woman I look back and realize that what I have mostly seen is that [b]people have utter contempt for free will, they don\'t even realize that it\'s their birthright, [/b]and that participation in all these prison like agreements with society and others is completely optional. But I understand that winning friends and influencing people is what really matters to most humans, even if they get trapped, and even if they don\'t know how to cultivate the freedom to start finding out how they really feel about all the sacrifices they made to keep quasi-validatimg members of the clan around. It\'s a socially acceptable form of insanity, and guess what? Those that travel the well trodden path often aren\'t very happy. They\'re the ones that often say, \"I don\'t know what\'s wrong, but things just don\'t feel right. I\'m not even sure I know who I am or what I believe anymore. Maybe I\'m having a bit of an identity crisis. I certainly don\'t want to trouble my husband with any of these thoughts. I\'m sure it\'s nothing serious. It\'s probably just the season, damn you winter! I can\'t wait for spring. Things will start to look up when we get a little more sunlight. Anyway, I have no room in my head for bad thoughts. Would you like a warm cup of tea?\" autotelic Thu, 25 Dec 2008 03:16:25 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1137 Or they just have bad thoughts , lace the tea with strychnine and then tell the cops they didnt know what they were thinking and hope for a diminished responsibility plea ..... angie Thu, 25 Dec 2008 05:31:12 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1138 We have Free Will but our lives are ruled by bad habits and terrible choices. frank Thu, 25 Dec 2008 05:30:46 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1139 I\'ve learned that I\'m not really social material as I find it incredibly difficult to even motivate myself to attempt the level of demeanour and deference necessary for blending in that other people seem to natural excel at. I also suspect Free Will is a bit of an illusion but to the extent we can exercise it I dont think its really encouraged by society as the overwhelming social imperative seems to be to conform. anna Thu, 25 Dec 2008 05:55:50 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1140 i was just talking about having the free will to say no over and over again to things that aren\'t designed to produce happiness. Thu, 25 Dec 2008 07:58:28 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1141 \"I was just talking about having the free will to say no over and over again to things that aren\'t designed to produce happiness.\" That\'s my idea of free will too. anna Thu, 25 Dec 2008 08:39:28 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1142 Hey \' Doesnt Matter\' if you are going to post your latest ailments here could you at least try to present them as philosophical problems or insightful reflections on the human condition? Thanks admin1 Thu, 25 Dec 2008 15:28:42 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1157 I have a problem with processing incoming demands - I simply dont want to. Sy Fri, 26 Dec 2008 03:35:47 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1158 and it\'s always so pointless for someone to say that you\'re copping out when you don\'t want to process their incoming demands....... cop out or not, I feel pretty good about saying no to incoming demands. Limited availability helps to preserve our energy and strength, and I think it keeps us fresh and sharp for the times that we do happen to be present and available for human interaction. Cause God knows that if we\'re always available, people will request that we change. k Fri, 26 Dec 2008 06:41:05 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1159 The culture also puts pressure on people to abandon their autonomy and availability to themselves . Not so long ago non compliance and idle reproductive capacity would have risked a charge of witchcraft. Nowadays the subtle threats of ex communication are still there. We turn our back on the Holy Family at our own peril... Sy Fri, 26 Dec 2008 14:44:44 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1160 and I forgot to say that if we choose to be available in a limited way people will also request that we change. Fri, 26 Dec 2008 15:54:23 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1161 The potential degeneration of vision saddens me. I will cope. We all will be afflicted with some medical condition sooner or later. It seems the elderly are kept \"out of sight out of mind.\" Silence rather than whining about this seems a more mature approach...that and lots of carrot juice. it doesn\'t matter Fri, 26 Dec 2008 22:26:20 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1162 Maybe you should meditate on fortitude while your ailments remain at the potential stage... Brett Sat, 27 Dec 2008 02:15:57 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1163 We have a duty to be ourselves its not always easy but its a stroll in the park compared to constantly trying to live up to other peoples expectations of who we should be.. Anna Sat, 27 Dec 2008 02:16:38 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1164 There is a trade off between autonomy and incoming demands at the start of a relationship but after a certain point diminishing returns kick in with a vengeance as the loss of finite autonomy - and therefore self - accumulates before a near constant and potentially infinte barrage of incoming demands. Elena Sat, 27 Dec 2008 16:56:47 +0100 http://www.lifeisbrutallyunfair.com/content/view/297/#josc1165 Appeal to a higher power - science ! and get your DNA checked out for compatbility . Dr Zack Sun, 28 Dec 2008 00:08:56 +0100